Thursday, August 30, 2012

online dating, contentedness, and MR Wonderful



E-Harmony, Match.com, Christian Café, Fish in the Sea, even "Geek to Geek"
 
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There are a plethora of on-line dating sites out there in the cyber world today.  You may pooh-pooh the idea, but I know many happily married folks who met online.

To be honest, I do scratch my head about it all sometimes.   Back in the day, you actually had to meet face to face. 
why not say "hi"  in real life:)....  Ok, I am old


 Today you can pretty much get engaged before you see the other person’s eyes in real  life. It’s kinda “what in the cat hair” crazy. 

While Anna is happily married to a wonderful fella she met in grad school, and Evan has a steady girlfriend, Ruth has tried her hand at online dating.  It has been a bit rough going.  Because of her Asberger’s  Disorder (read about this in my blog post from  April 5, 2012) E-Harmony had no matches for her.  When she tried "Geek to Geek", she thought all the guys were….  well….too geeky.  (I know,  don’t even go there) lately she has tried Christian Café with a little success, but has yet to meet someone  face to face for coffee.  Here is what she says about it:

 "online dating is like fishing... or Russian roulette. what you get could be life changing.  You could get the biggest fish of your life, or you could be stuck staring at the water all day, or even shoot yourself in the head....fascinating stuff."

Leave it to Ru to sum it all up in a few colorful analogies:)


The “What in the Cathair” facts of the matter  is that it’s hard to find somebody.

 Someone who is your kindred spirit... someone to call your honey. 

Those of us who have found that should consider ourselves blessed. 

It would seem we all want someone to love, and to love us.  Some people stay single their whole lives,  AND are ok with it.  They have family, close friends,  a good job they love.  Some folks, who are divorced, or have endured the death of a spouse, have a tough row to hoe.  My sis lost her husband a few years back.  It has been hard.  She has done some online dating, but as of yet has not found MR Wonderful.

 Nowadays she seems content with her life.  She has her job, her friends, her kids, and is hoping for grandkids soon:)

Contentedness.

Sometimes it is hard for any of us to be truly “content”.  We long for the good old days, or strive for the future.

The “if onlys” or  “then I would be happy” statements abound.  

 

The truth of the matter is that our Jesus asks us to be “content” whatever our circumstances.

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. Philippians” 4:11 & 12

AND:

“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1 Timothy 6:6

Are you content with where God has you today?   

*A single parent making ends meet? 
*In the big middle of raising kids and so busy you can hardly breathe? 
*Older, trying to figure out how to give back?  


 
 Or just a lonely chick/guy scratching your head about the online dating thing.

Why not give it a whirl?  What have you got to loose?  As long as you are content where you are at right now, not pining away for “if onlys”.....

 it would seem God is A- OK with it.

 

And you might come up with Mr or Ms Wonderful:)

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